Sibs

‘Sibs’ is the UK charity for people who grow up with a disabled brother or sister. Monica, from Sibs, shares some ideas for giving attention to the siblings of your Additional Needs child or children during the holidays.

Giving siblings attention doesn’t have to take lots of time. It is better for them to have a parent’s full attention for a short amount of time, than a lot of time with distractions. This helps siblings feel loved and to know that they matter too, it helps to improve sibling behaviour, and reduces jealousy between siblings.

1. Make an activity jar

Help your sibling child write or draw fun activities on small pieces of paper. They need to be activities that last for only 10 minutes and for you and a sibling to do together. Put them in a small jar with a lid. When you have a 10 minute space, ask a sibling to choose an activity from the jar and do it together

2. Make and bake together

During the holiday do one craft or baking activity with your sibling child. Many miss out on these both at home and at school. Make some buns or do pizza toppings together; decorate a big poster together with his or her name on it; customise an old hat with buttons, ribbon and patches. Chat together as you make things.

3. Send a note

Write a note or a postcard to your sibling child. Make sure to write something fun and positive, such as ‘I am thinking about you today’ or ‘Have a fun time at your friend’s house’. Post it, or put it somewhere for your sibling child to find. Or send a text.