Essentially, these guys sat around a fire pit and shared how they were doing, how they were feeling, anything they wanted to get off their chests; they shared their stories, their experiences, their hopes and fears. They had a stick, which you had to hold if you were speaking. The only other rules were that there was no judgement or comments made, and what was said in ‘The Fire Circle’ stayed in ‘The Fire Circle’. It was a really good accountability group and even Ben Fogle said that he ended up talking about stuff that he hadn’t shared before.
It really reminded me of when I did some dads’ sessions for Care for the Family a few years back during the Just for You tour for families of children with additional needs. Dads coming together and sharing their experiences, their worries, their pain, their journey. It was one of the most impactful things I’ve ever had the privilege to be involved in.
It got me wondering whether any of this would translate online, where additional needs dads from anywhere could gather and share stuff, maybe one-off, maybe journeying together for a bit, maybe even meeting up for real sometimes. A bit of a ‘Dads’ Fire Circle’…
Parenting a child or young person with additional needs or disability can be isolating sometimes, and not everyone understands what it can be like. This community can provide a safe place for Dads to gather and encourage each other, journey with each other and help each other. We’ve built a website https://thedadsfirecircle.com where Dads will find blog posts just for them, as well as links to helpful and supportive resources such as Care for the Family’s Who Let The Dads Out? programme.
We will also be gathering dads ‘around the fire circle’, online at first during these challenging times, but with the aim of being able to meet face-to-face, maybe even for a weekend retreat, when possible. Giving dads a chance to meet other guys who share similar experiences to them, to know that they are not alone.
As Ben Fogle himself said, “life is short so live it. Fear is awful so face it. Love is rare so seize it. Anger is ugly so avoid it. Memories are precious so cherish them.”
Let’s live life together then… come and join us around the fire.
Additional Needs Ministry Director, Urban Saints, and Founder of The Dads Fire Circle
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