Grieving someone close can feel extremely lonely at any time. But especially so if you believe no one could ever understand your deep pain of loss. It is at that point you desperately want the physical comfort of an embrace and someone to help relieve that loneliness by listening. After all, by nature, we are relational beings.
You may have other people living in the house with you, but grieving is an individual process and your grief is yours. If they are grieving too, they may just not have the capacity to listen and take on your emotions as well. But you may be living on your own, as the person who was living there with you has now gone. And you now have no-one to talk to and say how you are feeling. Or perhaps the only other people in the house are your children and you don’t want to add to their struggles by opening yourself up.
In the current crisis, you may be confined to the house and no-one can come and visit you. Even if you are able to get out, you still need to keep the recommended distance from others. Such conversations in public just aren’t the same, even if you feel up to talking. All this can compound those feelings of loneliness that are a natural part of grieving as we process the uniqueness of our situation. So what can we do?