“During the course we talked about building children’s self-esteem and giving them emotional security through praise, encouragement, attention, etc. By the end of the five-week course, the mum had changed the way she dealt with her son. She spent quality time with him, encouraged and praised him. She told the group that for the first time in many, many months, her son was not talking about ‘ending his life’, he was happy to go to school and had started to make friends. She was thrilled at the difference the Time out for Parents course had made to her, her son and the rest her family.”
A parent’s story:
“When I started to attend the Time out for Parents course my nine-year-old daughter and I did not get on at all. I fought with her continually and not a day went by that she did not cry. I just didn’t know what to do. I felt I was at the end of my ability to cope. After week two of the course, which was all about emotional security and how to build our children’s self- esteem, I went home and started doing the things we had talked about. It made such a difference. The next week I went to the session and told everyone that our relationship had improved, even in that week. At the end of the course my daughter didn’t cry anymore and we were getting on better than ever. She still has her moments – so do I – but now I know how to be with her. She has given me a hug for the first time. It’s great!”
If you’re interested in attending a local parenting course, why not find out if one is running near you? Or find out more about training to be a course facilitator.
Don’t expect to be a perfect parent – just do your best!
- Children want 5 minutes, not £5. Love is spelt t-i-m-e. There are no substitutes – and children know it.
- Don’t postpone having fun. Make time to play a game together or have a chat.
- Giving children time improves their behavior. Sometimes they ‘act up’ simply to get our attention.
- Notice and praise good behaviour, including behaviour that is better than before.
- Criticising, threatening and shouting at children amounts to ‘verbal smacking’ and damages their self-esteem.
- Be as consistent as you can.
- Say “No” and mean it! Don’t be afraid to be firm with them.
- Say sorry if you have acted unfairly. Children learn from example.