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Loneliness

It has been said that loneliness is the disease of our society. The sense of belonging to a community seems a memory of the past.

Many of us have experienced the feeling of loneliness at one time or another. We may be surrounded by children all day long, but still feel very alone. Loneliness is more than an absence of people. Perhaps it is a need in all of us to love and be loved, to belong and to matter to someone?

There are no easy answers, but there are some coping strategies that can help, both externally and internally. I do hope that you never feel completely alone. As you read this article, you are joining with thousands of other single parent around the country. We at Care for the Family are also here for you and hope that the support we offer can help ease the burdens you may be carrying. Below is a list of things that you can do to help take the edge off of loneliness.

  • Visit a friend or go out for a coffee with them.
  • Invite friends around for a meal.
  • Skype friends when you can’t go out at night.
  • Join hundreds of other single parents on our Facebook group (click here)
  • Buy a pet. Pets are great companions who greet you at the door when you arrive home and will be there for a snuggle on the couch whilst watching TV.
  • Visit others in need such as the elderly, sick or disabled.
  • Make a conscious effort to encourage others.
  • Take up a hobby. Adult colouring books are the rage at the moment and crocheting has made a real come back.
  • Watch a new TV series.

Things that may help when there is no one around:

  • Celebrate your achievements, no matter how small or trivial they may seem. Make a list of ‘one good thing I did today’ each day for a month, then look back to encourage yourself.
  • Keep a “joy” box of memories, photos, letters, cards etc. to remind you of happy times and events.
  • Cultivate a positive mental attitude: be optimistic, appreciate and love yourself.
  • Have an encouraging book or music close to hand for those lonely nights.
  • Set yourself realistic goals.
  • Acknowledge and admit your feelings.
  • Do something for yourself such as a bubble bath with candles and wine or read a good book.
  • Live one day at a time.